HOLD ON FOR WHAT??? LET IT GO!!!!

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I think that one of the hardest things in life to do is let go of a bad situation. Letting go is so scary because it requires you to step really far outside of your comfort zone. As long as you hang on to what you are familiar to, you do not have to worry about starting over, learning something new, or becoming acquainted with something all over again. This can go for any walk of life. Sometimes, it is just time to let go. Although holding on may be the most comfortable choice, it may also be the most expensive choice. You are paying for holding on: you are paying with your happiness, your peace of mind, and your mental stability. Is it really worth such a lofty price.

It’s like playing a losing game of tug o’ war, the more you hold on to that rope trying to pull it back to your, the more energy you are wasting and the more physical pain you are causing yourself. You are trying so hard to win the game, but you are not paying attention to the blisters you are creating on hands by tugging on that rope with all your might. It is sad to say, but sometimes you are actually winning when you just let go of the work. You saved some energy and you saved yourself from some unwanted pain.

I hear a lot of people say that they do not let go because they have invested so much time and energy in the situation. For example, people say that they don’t leave relationships because they have put so much into them. However, what does it matter what you put into something if you are not getting anything out? Take all that energy and effort you are putting into a bad situation, and put it into you and your goals. You deserve more than to give you very best effort and it return to your void. Let it go. If you are in a bad situation, letting it go can be one of the healthiest things you can do. You will thank yourself later. You can’t be concerned about what people think or what people will say. There comes a point when you have to make a selfish decision and say, I am doing this for me and NOT       anyone else. People may not always understand your decision, but do they have to live with it?

Letting go allows you to see what could be. When your hold on, you are sometimes stopping yourself from accomplishing all you can accomplish. True enough, you may go from one bad situation to another, but at least you will be able to say that you were brave enough to let go of what had you bound and move on to the unknown. The next situation may not always be a better one, but if you are already in a bad situation what do you really have to lose? You will never know what life has for you until you try. Scared people never changed the world. Let go of a bad situation even if it is all you know and see how easily all you know becomes all you KNEW.

I think that it is impossible to be the BEST YOU that you can be if you are holding one to something that is not good for you. Even on a job, you can’t provide your best work if you are a disgruntled employee. Seek to do things that makes you peaceful and happy, and let go of anything that makes you uneasy, sad or angry. This could mean taking a leap of faith and venturing into unknown, unfamiliar territory. You will survive; it won’t be easy, and in the beginning it won’t be comfortable, but it will be WORTH IT.

Anything that is not helping your grow is tearing you down. Even with your hand in a lion’s mouth, it suggest you sacrifice your hand just to save the rest of you. LET IT GO!!!!

–Ro

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STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR BOO ON SOCIAL MEDIA!!!

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Okay, even I have been guilty of the occasional social media rant (thank God for growth), but the truth is that social media not the place for your rants, especially about your relationship. Ranting and venting about your significant other on social media only brings about consequences that are definitely untimely and unwanted. Here are five reason that I think you should not talk negatively about your significant other on social media.

  1. You make yourself look crazy: most of the time when you write negative things about your boyfriend or girlfriend on social media, you do not mean it.  You are mad in that moment and you lash out.  The problem with lashing out is that most of the time you ARE going to go back to the person that you were venting about which makes you look crazy.  When you are no longer mad, you post something positive about that person, and people immediately say you know what he/she is crazy.  Isn’t that the same person he/she was just talking about last week?  The less you say the less you have to defend.  If you had not ranted on social media, you would not have to defend your happiness in the relationship.  I always laugh hysterically when I see someone who was just bashing his or her mate talking about how people are always in their business.  Come on now!!!!!
  2. People feed off of your misery: It is sad to say, but we live in a world where people take pleasure in the misery of others.  When you post that detailed essay about the trouble in paradise, there are people who are readily waiting to gain just a little bit of satisfaction about your issues.  Why would you give anyone the satisfaction of being about to get a kick out of the problems that you are dealing with in your life? Stop giving your social media followers a show.  Is it really worth it?
  3. People are waiting on your vulnerability:  You know how a dog sits below the table while you are eating waiting on you to drop a morsel of food. Well its similar; there is somebody who is waiting for your trouble in paradise so that they can swoop in and wow your significant other.  You are on social medial writing about what Jim does and doesn’t do while Angela is using the troubled times to try to vie for Jim’s attention.  If you had not vented on social media then the lookers on would not have known that this was a good time to try to date Jim.  Even when your relationship is miserable, you should be saying nothing.  People can’t stand to have to wonder.
  4. You leave yourself open for unwanted advice: when your post your issues people begin to think that they can voice their opinions on your situation.  I see it all the time.  A person writes about their troubles and then gets mad when people off them advice.  People would not feel so comfortable talking to you about your situation if you had not put it on the internet FOR THE WORLD TO SEE. How dare you get mad about unwanted advice when you put your own business on the internet? The next time you post something that you are going through, do not get mad when your inbox is flooded with people giving their two cents on the matter.
  5. The last and most important reason is that NOBODY CARES! Most of your social media audience doesn’t care when you are going through things.  They are just there to find the latest gossip. I have to admit that sometimes I scroll through my news feed to see who done what with who, and social media never fails me. Let’s be real you are not actually friends with the majority of the people who you are connected to on social media. I have over 1500 Facebook friends and I can honestly count on both of my hands the ones that I actually talk to outside of Facebook.  I mean the people who care about what you are going through should be those who you call, text, or see on a regular basis.  Why do you have to go to social media?

I hope you enjoyed reading.  I’d love to hear your thoughts.

–Ro