Life is about choices. You are free to make the choices that you want to make in life. You are free to choose left or right. You are free to choose to lie or tell the truth. You are free to date who you please. You are free to inflict pain or pleasure. You are totally free in your decision making. However, decision making is one of the most expensive freedoms that you have. Making decisions is indeed a gamble, because although you are free to make choices, you are not free to choose the consequences associated with those choices. You can choose to be disloyal to a person, but you cannot choose how that person will respond to your disloyalty. You can even choose to have a child, but you cannot choose what that child will look like, act like, or be like. When it comes to consequences you are totally POWERLESS and all your efforts to shape consequences are futile. I said all of that to say this: you have to be careful about the bed that you are making, especially if it is one you are not sure you will be comfortable laying in. You cannot keep making decisions and then running from the consequences of those decisions. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet and say “hey I caused this, so let me deal with it.” Life does not afford you any rewinds or do over’s, so sometimes you have to focus on getting it right the first time. If you attempt to make good heartfelt decisions, then you are less likely to be running, sad, and afraid when it is time to pay the piper.
In case you haven’t already figured it out , allow me to make one thing perfectly clear for you; life is going to happen. Things will occur that you cannot control. Things will happen that you do not know how to fix. Things it will happen that cause you to become disheartened. You will have financial issues, trouble finding suitable employment, issues in your love life! Those issues are just a little drizzle compared to things that are bound to happen when the storms of life really start raging. It so easy to host a pity party and invite all of your closest friends, but the truth of the matter is that no amount of Hennessey and coke or strawberry margaritas is going to solve the source of your dismay.
When we are going through things, we can think of all the ways that our life can be different. We can set goals and TALK about all the changes we are going to make. However, the million dollar question here is WHAT ARE WE REALLY DOING ABOUT IT??? What actions are we taking to fix the issues in our lives; what are we doing make these big dreams we have for our lives come true. Talking sounds good, but allow me to tell you my friend that it is a waste of time if you actions do not match the words you are saying.
I can give you a real life example:
This girl I know (ME) has been a teacher since 2008, and I that time she has received two advanced degrees which qualify her to land careers other than teaching positions. Well, she decided last year that she wanted to come out of the classroom! She made up in her mind that she would rather take on a leadership role. She had a goal set, and she was ready to take on this new job. She even prayed for a job outside the classroom!!! When jobs were posted on different websites, SHE ONLY APPLIED FOR TEACHING JOBS!!! She had done all that “big talk,” but her actions had kept her exactly where she said she did not want to be. Yes, she had the qualifications and the goals in place, but SHE DID NOT DO ANYTHING TO ACCOMPLISH THE GOAL! She allowed fear of rejection to win, and she only applied for jobs she KNEW she would get. Even with the goals set and the prayers, guess where she will be working next year: IN THE CLASSROOM!! Even the good book says faith without work is DEAD!!!
The moral of the story is that I wanted a better job, but I did not do anything about it. So, obviously, I did not want it badly enough!!!
Those of you who want a new job, are in a dead end relationship, want to lose weight, want to manage money better, or have any other change you want to make in your life, stop just setting goals and making plans!!! For every goal you set, for every change you wish to make, ask yourself WHAT THE HECK AM I GOING TO DO ABOUT IT!!!!
Setting goals and making plans without taking the necessary actions is like staring into an empty refrigerator waiting on food to appear!!! I can assure you IT’S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT????